I try not to give a lot of prescriptive advice about working in tech companies. There are many ways to be successful, and every company works differently. If…

If you routinely “get heated” at work, the best-case scenario is that you’re part of a tight-knit team of confident people who aren’t put off by it. No harm, no foul. But the second someone comes onto your team who’s not so confident, or you have to communicate outside of your team, it becomes a big problem. It’s a bad way to treat your colleagues — even undirected or casual anger intimidates and alienates the people around you — and it makes you a less effective engineer.

  • tatterdemalion@programming.dev
    111·
    6 hours ago

    I don’t regret the times I show anger at work, but it’s a definitely a fine line that can leave me feeling a bit uneasy afterwards. It’s one of the “social capital” things; you need to earn enough good will to spend your anger on the battles that really matter to you.

  • A_norny_mousse@piefed.zipEnglish
    20·
    9 hours ago

    This is valid not only for engineers. Possibly for all work situations.
    A lesson I too had to learn the hard way.

    OTOH expressing anger in your life must be possible. Maybe it’s possible to do that constructively.

  • FizzyOrange@programming.dev
    31·
    6 hours ago

    Yeah there’s no need to get angry. It’s just a job. If it doesn’t work without anger you can always get another one (or probably most people here can anyway).