This is good advice that I needed 5+ years ago.

I was so wrapped up with career advancement to realize I was self-sabotaging by caring too much.

Now I do the work that lands in front of me and handle the conflicts with a dispassionate distance.

It’s not that I don’t care anymore, but I come to realize that my feelings about a topic are more likely to cause a problem than solve it. And solving problems is my job (and what I’m good at).

It’s too bad for me that anger was the dominant emotion in my household while growing up. Thankfully, I can recognize it and ignore it or actively avoid it now. But it has taken a lot of work.