I do hate the “decent me aren’t sitting around worrying about being accused” not because it’s not true, but because it’s so easy to point at X Y or Z story where someone admitted they lied about the thing they accused a person of, but only years after the persons life was destroyed. Of course, the decent ones have no idea how to handle it BECAUSE they didn’t have a reason to worry about it.
<personal anecdote>
I myself have been accused of SAing a person at a party. The only party I ever went to in school consisted of show choir members chilling in a garage drinking, and only about half of us were drinking. Due to childhood trauma I cannot stand alcohol so I was one of the sober ones. When pointed out by someone else, the person almost immediately started backpeddaling to “it was a joke” but nobody laughed. Everyone was uncomfortable. And of course as more people hear about the event, the story gets diluted back to now people think I SAd someone when they’ve already said they lied about it. Not life ruining, but it very nearly got out of hand, and very quickly. The only reason I can think she thought to say that was she was mad at me for taking a solo in a song she wanted. Different friend groups, so the only thing we had in common was like 2 classes together.
Did you worry about being accused before it happened? No, which is WHY it fucked you up.
“Oh no this thing happened that nearly got out of hand”!" Oh you poor dear, we should immediately pack up attempts to fight casualisation of sexual assault in response
I was pointing out how the “shock” of the false accusation is actually a good indicator of the rarity of the act, so claiming "muh false accusation tho " is a pretty poor argument to use against the original post
I do hate the “decent me aren’t sitting around worrying about being accused” not because it’s not true, but because it’s so easy to point at X Y or Z story where someone admitted they lied about the thing they accused a person of, but only years after the persons life was destroyed. Of course, the decent ones have no idea how to handle it BECAUSE they didn’t have a reason to worry about it.
<personal anecdote>
I myself have been accused of SAing a person at a party. The only party I ever went to in school consisted of show choir members chilling in a garage drinking, and only about half of us were drinking. Due to childhood trauma I cannot stand alcohol so I was one of the sober ones. When pointed out by someone else, the person almost immediately started backpeddaling to “it was a joke” but nobody laughed. Everyone was uncomfortable. And of course as more people hear about the event, the story gets diluted back to now people think I SAd someone when they’ve already said they lied about it. Not life ruining, but it very nearly got out of hand, and very quickly. The only reason I can think she thought to say that was she was mad at me for taking a solo in a song she wanted. Different friend groups, so the only thing we had in common was like 2 classes together.
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This is a women’s only community.
We actually had a semi-lengthy discussion about this in the comments which you clearly didn’t read along with ignoring the rules.
Technically 🤓 it’s a women and gender diverse community, since there are more than two genders
Absolutely!
Did you worry about being accused before it happened? No, which is WHY it fucked you up.
“Oh no this thing happened that nearly got out of hand”!" Oh you poor dear, we should immediately pack up attempts to fight casualisation of sexual assault in response
Cool, it’s fine to get mad and put words in my mouth. Byeee
Your argument is that someone’s life was almost ruined and that they should just get over it?
Nope.
I was pointing out how the “shock” of the false accusation is actually a good indicator of the rarity of the act, so claiming "muh false accusation tho " is a pretty poor argument to use against the original post
Why generalise decent men if you don’t want to be pointed out?
Why you wanna recenter a post about sexual assault on women to “decent men”?
Read the last sentence of the post. I was completely on board with OP until then.
Rude the rules.