I don’t feel very good right now. I’m one year and some change on HRT. It’s been a wonderful experience so far and I love being a girl. I know that I’m trans, and I’m reminded by “why” every time I go home and I’m forced to boymode.
Unfortunately that’s little comfort to the complex feelings of starting to feel erectile dysfunction (ED). I just had sex with my trans girlfriend and she didn’t have much left. I can’t ignore this feeling I’m on that same path eventually.
I want some sort of function either male or female. Even though I still wish I was born with a vagina. It pains me to even think about going off HRT though. I love being a girl too much and I don’t think I could present fem without HRT. I still have most all of its function but it doesn’t stay up for as long.
It’s a completely irrational feeling that I hope will be solved eventually with SRS, but that’s probably 10 years away and I just learned how to be sexual 2 years ago.
Talk to your doctor. There are a few options. I used Cialis/Tadalafil for a bit. Also, I was not taking androgen blockers as the estradiol alone lowered my testosterone levels enough which is somewhat common and many doctors are waiting now to prescribe the androgen blockers due to the possible side effects. But I know it’s difficult to remove those if you’ve already started with them. That said I still suffered some ED, but the meds helped though I didn’t like the side effects of getting hot and face flushing. But you can take Cialis regularly in lower doses rather than just in the moment which helped reduce the impact of those side effects.
On the plus side, the orgasms become way, way better without testosterone, and eventually you can have multiple orgasms in a single session, things just take longer to build up. Remember, cis-women require more stimulation to get turned on, too, and to orgasm and you’ll need to get used to that. Even after SRS, my orgasms take a long time, though I did have some complications around the clitoral tissue and am awaiting revision surgery, but they are way more intense and last longer.
So, my advice is be patient. Realize that you will need your partner to give you more attention than a cis-male. Your erection no longer directly expresses how turned on you are. So communication is required instead, again, similar to a cis-woman, though our cultures rarely allow for it even with cis-women. And it’s a reason I like sleeping with women rather than men since they better know what to expect.