Practicing is actually super useful. I remember that I kept slipping up when I first knew someone who used they/them pronouns. They didn’t hold it against me, because I was at least trying to get it right (unfortunately many people who misgendered them weren’t receptive to being corrected). A different friend suggested the idea of finding a passage of fiction and reading it out, using the name and pronouns of the person I’m practicing the pronouns for. It really helped to begin to unravel the instinctual binary classification that I had been raised to think of as essential
I can usually get it consistently with about two minutes of recontextualizing.
I thought it was really easy to use the right pronouns, then my older sibling came out as non-binary. It’s really hard to overcome an entire lifetime of practice.
My mom has a trans person at work, every time she uses the wrong pronoun talking about them I correct her. It’s working out 👌
Where does one go to ‘have’ a trans person? Asking for a friend.
Edit: It’s a joke about owning a trans person, and has nothing to do with grammar. Not sure why people are looking for something to be angry about.
Are you seriously insulting their level of English? Are you aware that not the entire world speaks English as a first language?
You comment is childish and petty and if you belive that op meant what you are referring to then you are quite dense.
Is that even a mistake to begin with? English is not my first language, but as far as I know, you can have a person at work, no?
In my dialect it’s totally correct. Having and taking are verbs we’re very comfortable abstracting. “We had rain in my city today” is totally normal and doesn’t imply that I possess the rain. “I have a coworker who believes it’s socially acceptable to eat horseradish at his desk” is gramatically correct and doesn’t imply that I have any power whatsoever over this man.


