I called out my baby brother earlier this year. All us grandkids were sitting together and talking and my baby brother, 17/m, was saying something and he was like, “…and I raped…” Such and such a thing.

I passed it up the first time because I was a kid once. We kept talking and he said it again. Conversation continued and we were talking about his gf and he said “raped” again (not in relation to his gf, just adjacent) and I stopped things.

I think I said something like, “Hey dude, that word is one I’m sure your buddies use and that’s actually okay, but it also has a lot of terrible meanings. Even if it’s not been your intention everyone in this room has shot you a look every time you’ve said rape. I’m pretty sure none of us appreciate it and I’m sure your girlfriend doesn’t either. It’s a very scary thing and not just from a woman’s perspective. You got to think about your audience.”

He didn’t say “raped” again where any of us could hear him. Our little grandkid clan of 3 men and 2 women will be better for it.