I had a “friend”, once upon a time, that I would do anything for. A friend that I thought was on the same “we’re friends because we’re both crazy” sort of way… and maybe did some drugs and messed around together sort of way. She left town and didn’t tell me for two weeks and honestly, I felt like my heart had been ripped out when she finally did. I remember calling her occasionally for a year after in hopes of, IDK, wanting to talk to her and hoping she was somewhat interested in my life.
It wasn’t until someone pointed out to me that “but would she do that for you” that I realised that no, she would not ditch her friends/family at 10:30pm on a weeknight to race across the city to be in a shitty place in hopes of maybe spending some time together while knowing that truly she was just using you. But I was so crazy for this “friend” that I would have stayed 3 nights in that place, dangling on that hook.
You did the right thing. Ask yourself - why she did reach out? Was she bored? Lonely? Had a small moment of reflection due to drink/drug/pain/outside influence?
No matter what, you don’t need her interference with your life. You’re making your own way forward.
You have it right.
Love is reciprocation.
Love is caring.
I remember when Miss Seagoon broke up with her previous BF, she said she knew when she went on a short holiday and felt relieved she wasn’t with him. No more drama, no more being used. I was the same when I left my first husband. Sad but relieved.
Short answer, yes.
A Rant.
I had a “friend”, once upon a time, that I would do anything for. A friend that I thought was on the same “we’re friends because we’re both crazy” sort of way… and maybe did some drugs and messed around together sort of way. She left town and didn’t tell me for two weeks and honestly, I felt like my heart had been ripped out when she finally did. I remember calling her occasionally for a year after in hopes of, IDK, wanting to talk to her and hoping she was somewhat interested in my life.
It wasn’t until someone pointed out to me that “but would she do that for you” that I realised that no, she would not ditch her friends/family at 10:30pm on a weeknight to race across the city to be in a shitty place in hopes of maybe spending some time together while knowing that truly she was just using you. But I was so crazy for this “friend” that I would have stayed 3 nights in that place, dangling on that hook.
You did the right thing. Ask yourself - why she did reach out? Was she bored? Lonely? Had a small moment of reflection due to drink/drug/pain/outside influence?
No matter what, you don’t need her interference with your life. You’re making your own way forward.
You have it right. Love is reciprocation. Love is caring.
I remember when Miss Seagoon broke up with her previous BF, she said she knew when she went on a short holiday and felt relieved she wasn’t with him. No more drama, no more being used. I was the same when I left my first husband. Sad but relieved.