• Wren@lemmy.today
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    22 hours ago

    I’ll never forget the morning a friend called me up because she got roofied the night before. At least she was pretty sure she did. A blackout after two drinks.

    Thankfully nothing happened because she went to sleep it off in her car. We spent the better part of a morning trying to track down her missing phone, which she left at the pub.

    While we sat on a bus bench and debated whether she should go to the hospital, some square-jawed older man gave us a grin and said we’d be prettier if we smiled.

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      6 hours ago

      because she went to sleep it off in her car.

      So some one slipped her a sedative, saw her leave and get in her car? Luckily she decided to sleep it off first and didn’t drove home.

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        She was just passing through the city, so she was sleeping in her car anyway. The friends she was out with thought she was tired, my opinion on some of them is a whole other story.

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      20 hours ago

      Yeah, I remember when my old roommate told me about how she had been roofied the night before. She was not a lightweight by any means and after her first drink she started feeling drunk. Thankfully, we lived within walking distance of the bar and her friends were there. She said she grabbed one friend’s arm, said something is really wrong, and they practically carried her home.

      What’s really scary is that, at least at the time, it was a really popular Friday/weekend bar that everyone went to and it wasn’t the first story I heard about that place.

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        What’s really scary is that, at least at the time, it was a really popular Friday/weekend bar that everyone went to and it wasn’t the first story I heard about that place.

        That’s exactly why the place was targeted. If it were some deserted neighborhood dive bar with only three regulars in it, it wouldn’t be hard to figure out who slipped the roofie. The guys who do this target places with large crowds, where no one can know everyone, and where they can slip in and out without being remembered. They just want to be another face in the crowd. It’s hard to grab a roofied girl and pull the whole, “my friend is drunk, I’m going to take her home now” bit if it’s a tight-knit bar where everyone knows everyone. And ultimately, from the point of view of the predator, there’s no point in roofieing someone if you can’t bring them home with you. The roofie is a means to an end, not an end in itself.

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      22 hours ago

      I had to carry my friend home from the bar one night last year. She was on her second drink and was suddenly incapacitated. Pure coincidence that there was a guy pestering us most of the night when our partners were otherwise distracted.

      I’m so glad nothing happened to your friend.

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        20 hours ago

        There’s a bar near where I live and they have an organized rape system. Bartenders, bouncers and owner in on it. Cops know, cops partake and women get raped every weekend. We warn people but you’re never going to get to everybody :( I’d like to hear more about how there’s no rape culture from guys who are the real victims though.

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        22 hours ago

        Jesus. That’s scary, and I know because I was scared as fuck when she called me.

        Considering we didn’t go to the hospital because she said it’d be a long wait just to tell her what she already knows, I wonder how often this really happens. Everyone I know has a story.

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      20 hours ago

      I know someone who was spiked too… and god knows how many who may have thought the spiking was just the impact of alcohol. It’s really scary

      Alcohol is the most commonly used date rape drug, so I do wonder if spiking is partly due to wanting the power of causing the vulnerability rather than the victim drinking themselves