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  • dkppunk@piefed.socialEnglish
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    44 minutes ago

    I’m so pissed off today 🤬

    I have a remote employee who needs to ship equipment back to the company tomorrow. The employment had been extended twice, but no one thought to inform the person coordinating the whole thing of the actual separation date until a few days ago. There are all kinds of company shipping issues going on right now, but OF COURSE I should have magically known all of this needed to happen now because I’m such a fucking mind reader that knows everything and can do everything 😤😫😖😣😒

    And my hormones are raging today which makes everything 10 times worse FML 😩

    Fuck I need to get into a boxing class again so I can hit things when I’m angry 😡

  • strawberry_enjoyer42@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    4·
    2 days ago

    I’m feeling really conflicted in regards to dating. I’m (probably?) ace-spec, and all I really want is someone to cuddle, kiss, and love. I feel anxious, and I think it’s because I’m worried that I’ll never find someone to be long-term partners with.

    There’s also polyamory. It sounds great, but I would only want to be in like, a closed polycule. Any kind of open relationship would leave me feeling left out.

  • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    6·
    3 days ago

    Yesterday was a real red letter day for me - I spoke to my sister on the phone, and we actually had a pleasant conversation!

    We hadn’t talked more than about five words since about 2004, when she found out what my “lifestyle” entailed. I had resigned myself to never seeing her again, and only got updates from my brother.

    But now she’s separated from her husband, and seems to have softened her attitude. She’s even talking about visiting with the kids next year.

    I may have cried a bit, I’m so happy … hell, I’m tearing up a bit just writing this :')

    • Okokimup@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      2 days ago

      I think it’s really cool that you are willing to have a relationship with her again. I don’t expect anyone to allow someone into their life that makes them feel unsafe, but if you feel safe, I’m a big believer in rehabilitation over retribution. I grew up in a conservative religious environment, and I was well into adulthood before I learned better. I also feel like I become a more well-adjusted, compassionate person as I get older, so I like to believe that others do too.

      • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
        2·
        2 days ago

        I learned a lot from when I quit my life of crime and managed to slowly have a relationship with my mother.

        Most people need to work on their empathy, in a natural society like humans evolved for, where you have about a hundred people in your life, that can happen naturally … but these days? It needs a good shove, maybe from a humbling experience.

        I think that’s how I might be able to get ob with her. She’s come down to ground with a bump, and maybe realises that I’m not just something to look down on.

        If I can make it work it would be so nice … I hope you, too, can cultivate positive relationships for yourself :-)

  • sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.worldEnglish
    5·
    3 days ago

    Does anyone else here have ongoing or chronic illness that they are having a heck of a time getting properly diagnosed and treated? I’m going through it, but I’m also if a certain age where everything is blamed on my hormones. Anywho, I’d love to commiserate with anyone experiencing the same thing.

    • Pipster@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      2·
      1 day ago

      I’m having problems just trying to get a problem with my foot taken seriously, let alone trying to get something chronic diagnosed…

      First asked my GP in Feb, got a physio appointment book a month later. Just told me to do some muscle exercises. Shockingly these did not help the problem…

      Self referred to the local specialist musculoskeletal service, over two weeks later I get told they have my referral and there is a 9 week waiting list…

      After a day where I could barely walk at all, contacted my GP again and got an appointment. Prodded around a little, took notes and sent me off to the hospital with an X-ray request. this was last week and I’m waiting for a phone call today to discuss the findings.

      This is for a problem where it is localised in one tiny area, I can explain exactly what causes it to hurt, precisely where it hurts, what helps it not hurt and what the pain feels like. I can’t even imagine trying to navigate this with something more global like fatigue or general chronic pain…

    • gingersaffronapricat@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      2 days ago

      I’ve been having trouble with fatigue. It has been unwanted and getting a diagnosis has been long and frustrating. I need to take next steps. The whole process has been so slow, opaque, expensive, onerous.

      • sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        2 days ago

        My fatigue was a clue, but not the end of the rabbit hole. I did lean into family history to get me some direction, which helped a bit. I’ve concluded that medicine isn’t as far advanced as I want it to be sometimes.

        • gingersaffronapricat@lemmy.worldEnglish
          2·
          1 day ago

          You got me thinking. There is a duality in many areas. Including medicine. Where in some areas there are insights available at such a tiny level. But sometimes the best strategy is try something and see what happens.

    • Okokimup@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      2 days ago

      I’m also also in the US and the problem I’m having right now is that I moved from one state to another, and I can’t switch my medicaid over to the new state until the old state is closed out, and I can’t do that until my caseworker, whom I ve never met or had any dealings with, chooses to follow through on my request. They are literally the only human on the planet standing between me and medical coverage and I can’t get ahold of them. I’ve left Voicemails, and just spent $17 to send a certified letter that requires a signature. It’ll hopefully get there by Friday, because the post office had zero options to get it there overnight. Meanwhile, i’m running low on medications, and in a lot of pain that I need to see a doctor about ASAP. I may have to spend 8 hours in the car tomorrow to go back to the old state on the off chance that someone can help me in person.

      • sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.worldEnglish
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        2 days ago

        OMG what a nightmare. I cannot imagine layering government on top of healthcare. It’s like the perfect storm of inefficiency. I’m sending good thoughts your way. I hope it is sorted quickly.

    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      5·
      3 days ago

      Urgh, I know how you feel - I’ve had the worst luck with doctors not listening to me in the past, and sometimes literally making stuff up … I felt like shit for over 10 years because of bad doctor’s advice.

      If they’re blaming your problems on “hormones” then you could ask them for a referral to an endocrinologist … that way you get to come back with paperwork to say they can’t blame that any more.

      Of course, it might be different if you’re in the US :-/

      Anyway, *Big Hugs* from all the way over here

      • sunbrrnslapper@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        2 days ago

        I am in the US and finally forked over the money for a concierge doctor. It helped get the referrals I need, but even the specialists are skeptical at times. For example I complained about some pretty bad stomach pain and my GI doc was like, fine I guess you can go for a gastric emptying study. And thank God, because it turns out that is at least one of my problems. I feel like if your problem is outside of the 12 things they see frequently, the system comes to a complete stop. Frustrating!