• Beehaw_Girl@beehaw.org
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    20 days ago

    Well I suppose that’s one way to look at it, but really what’s happening is that they respect the fact that you’re not single nor available, so they RESPECTFULLY back off.

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      20 days ago

      If that was the case, “I have a girlfriend” should also work the same, but from my experience it never does.

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        19 days ago

        Well men are just horny, so when a woman says she has a girlfriend, he gets double hornier. But if she says she has a boyfriend, that’s the ultimate shield and he backs off.

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            18 days ago

            Well, my first comment was based on assuming everyone was heterosexual in the scenario. But if you throw lesbians into it, the dynamic changes.

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              18 days ago

              Why? Your initial comment said that the man would respect that the woman wasn’t single or available. If that’s the case the gender of her partner shouldn’t matter. If it does, it only means that the statement of the original post was true and he never respected the woman in the first place but the unknown boyfriend instead.

              Also fetishizing lesbians is pretty much the opposite of respectful. 🤷‍♀️

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          19 days ago

          honestly, this feels pretty sexist towards men ngl

          “men are just horny”

          oh okay, every man is just horny guys, theyre all pervs so you should not let them know youre gay

          /s for anyone in the back of the class

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          18 days ago

          I’m a man and I just don’t understand this. I want someone who wants me back. I leave lesbians alone when it comes to flirting/romance, I don’t understand other men’s fascination with them.

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      19 days ago

      Is that why I have had to lie? Its not repectfully backing off. Its boundry pushing- to a point until youre telling them you have a man in your life even if you dont. It’s not that they respect you for being taken so they back off, its fear your man gonna come out swinging at them.

      The ones who don’t fear this, will keep going at it even if you tell them you have a man.

      A man who respects, takes the first… at most the second “no thank you” and leaves it.

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      19 days ago

      Respectfully? They’re already harassing, did you read the text? Shall i fetch you glasses? There is no respect to the woman here, only respect to the “ownership” of another male

      You seem to be unaware, but a woman existing is not a fucking invite for you to hit on her in the first place