it’s not just learning, we have to unlearn the unproductive lessons we learnt in childhood, then rationally learn what we should have been taught , then use that new information a lot until it feels comfortable
It took me a long time for my feelings to catch up with my rational mind when it comes to behaviours/red flags, especially subtle red flags .
I think you’re doing great. 🏆😘
can I say do not be afraid to confront triggers, real triggers that give you strong involuntary emotional reactions
, they are huge clues as to what happened , follow the thought, follow the memories, defuse the trigger
Haha! I think dumpster guy still wins, but that’s a solid Nope story.
My red flag detector is still being calibrated.
yes, this is a thing
it’s not just learning, we have to unlearn the unproductive lessons we learnt in childhood, then rationally learn what we should have been taught , then use that new information a lot until it feels comfortable
It took me a long time for my feelings to catch up with my rational mind when it comes to behaviours/red flags, especially subtle red flags .
I think you’re doing great. 🏆😘
can I say do not be afraid to confront triggers, real triggers that give you strong involuntary emotional reactions , they are huge clues as to what happened , follow the thought, follow the memories, defuse the trigger
I appreciate you posting this :)
My problem is that im an outsider. And outsiders can pick each other out in a room full of people, within seconds.
And there’s an innate magnetism.
Now. Nothing wrong with being attracted to other outsiders. But there’s different flavours and you gotta be careful.
Same regarding outsiders.
There’s a million kinds of outsiders with a myriad of interests and traits and some are good people, some bad, some not so healthy to be around.
Choose your friends wisely. 😘