• velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    20 hours ago

    It’s so cool when men come into this women’s only community and lecture at us.

    There are bad actors everywhere of every gender.

    It’s still true that decent men do not sit around worrying about being accused of being unsafe towards women.

    Women wanting to be safe is not an attack on men.

    • daddycool@lemmy.worldBanned from community
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      20 hours ago

      Oh sorry. Didn’t noticed it was a women’s only community. It just popped up in my feed and I replied. I’ll leave you to it then.

      • velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        20 hours ago

        Hopefully we don’t get an influx of men crying about the chance of being accused of rape in a community of women where statistically 30% of us have been sexually assaulted and/or raped.

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          16 hours ago

          It’s way higher in my experience. One in four girls have been sexually abused before the age of 18, so not even counting after that.

          • velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            16 hours ago

            You’re right, it’s definitely higher which is why I threw in “statistically”. It is very difficult to report and record sexual assault and rape cases for many reasons.

            Sometimes this kind of conversation will attract men who want to be technically correct and I was trying to avoid arguing with anyone about what the “real” numbers are. So I pulled what we know for sure for my comment.

            The fact that it’s even higher makes this kind of whinging to women about being seen as unsafe around women very cringe.

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            17 hours ago

            Thank you, yes. Very important distinction. The numbers are much higher.

            Which makes the whining even more cringe.