The incident log for the Red Means No CNC party that’s popular in rat / postrat circles.
Highlights include ‘non-negotiated’ penetration and a woman being dropped on the floor so hard it gave her a concussion.
The incident log for the Red Means No CNC party that’s popular in rat / postrat circles.
Highlights include ‘non-negotiated’ penetration and a woman being dropped on the floor so hard it gave her a concussion.
Ivy Astrix has followed up with a blog post.
A male kinkster and coder responded: “This is a tough one, but I’m going to fall on the side of the OP because the event is heavily gendered. Any event that embraces the concept that men are inherently predatory and women are inherently prey teaches the wrong things about roleplay, or human beings.”
I hope that anyone who wants to explore rape fantasies finds people who can help them explore safely, and that anyone who gets physically or emotionally hurt at one of these events can find help and support.
full disclosure in that i feel i didn’t hold myself to high enough standards in the initial version of that post (I have a lot of personal feelings here obvs but I always try to keep things on the right side of grievance and didn’t think I was entirely successful in it, I think RMN has fairly extensive policies in place which the average kink event probably wouldn’t)
I am divided on how to 1) document social context which is not obvious if you just watch a podcast with someone talking about alignment, but 2) not stick my nose in other people’s business. I can pass on stories of abuse from you and some of the anonymous sources in mainstream media articles.
I think that most kinkersters would recommend playing with these fantasies in a much more structured environment (eg. we rent the AirBNB and leave the door unlocked and a distinctive sign in the window, at some point after 8 pm you arrive and ravage us, or a rigger restrains the center of attention on his/her bed than people take advantage of him/her)