I did read it, but I don’t really buy it. She pays lip service to perspective but then says:

She’s doing the thing that everyone but me will understand.

which just brings it back to herself again. Plus, her concluding lines in which she considers sending her post-bypass friend a dozen donuts but then decides not to are weirdly snarky and self-congratulatory. I don’t believe that she’s really achieved perspective and empathy.

Different strokes for different folks - and thank you for sharing this! - but in my personal opinion, this essay is full of super toxic, overly dramatic HAES rhetoric that can be really harmful.

This woman comes across as a bitter crab in a bucket, making the struggles of others all about herself. Who passive-aggressively eats an entire bag of Halloween candy just because their friend is talking about the “evils” of white rice?

Honestly I hate to be rude but this woman sounds unbearable.

Jesus. That’s medical neglect :(

Jesus christ. I saw a thread in some other community the other day about Women’s Stuff and the men wah-wah-wahing like little babies about this sub were ridiculous. Same thing - in that thread some man was saying that when he replied to threads here he felt like he had to walk on eggshells.

You guys, all we want is one tiny corner of lemmy to ourselves. Somewhere we can talk about things that uniquely affect us -or- perhaps they affect men too but they affect us in a unique way due to our gender. And many men are cool with this concept and generally supportive (and a sincere thank you to those guys!) but a significant number are butthurt little babies about being unwanted here.

Those are the same butthurt little babies in the Fox News poll. If you can’t keep it civil in the workplace I don’t know what to tell you other than you’re a low-quality human. Have some fucking empathy.

Edit: here’s the post I was talking about.

You could mark one of the blades with red or blue paint so that you know you’re measuring the same one every time.