I’m happy to hear that you have a therapist.

It sounds strange that the therapist didn’t suggest for the parent to leave before asking about the relationship. Very proud of you for asking your mum to leave when the topic came up!

If you manage to speak to them alone, you could tell them that you are having issues with boundaries with your parents and you need their help to make sure your therapy can be made safe and with kept confidentiality so you can speak freely. Then you can figure out together how that can be implemented - maybe by having every other session be private, ot by having the therapist ask your mother to leave for like 30 min every session.

You need privacy to figure out who you are and where to find your own strength and courage without your family.

Good luck!

You replied to only one of my points, and that’s not even what I said…

They train new models on base models, and I’m talking about how they scraped the internet without permission or how websites sold their users data without compensation and how no one was ever given any opportunity to opt out of sharing your work and your words to train these base models on.

Without that grand scale theft we would have no base models anywhere near what we have now.

I’m not opposed to willingly sharing, I’m opposed to profiting from stealing.

I noticed how quickly my own skills started deteriorating when trying to work with it. I’m trying to build my skills, not outsource them.

I also don’t love the environmental impact, nor the immorality of how they got/get their training sets for the base models.

If my work tried to force me to use it, I would be looking to change employer. Or lie and say I use it. But our AI use is heavily regulated and generally disencouraged, so luckily no issues there.

Of course.

My reasons for not using AI are the same as they were four months ago and will be the same in four months, regardless of what the models can or can’t do.

Ask again in four years.

Probably whoever is in gravest danger or, if the danger is percieved as equal, who physically closest to them at the time.

If one of you are able to save themselves they would save the other. If neither could save themselves they wouldn’t run past one of you to look for the other but get the first one they see out first.

I don’t think trying to figure out favourites like this is worth thinking about, past the sbive point. If you dwell on thoughts like this beyond a slight curiosity it might just be your mind trying to come up with different ways to hurt you and make you suffer emotionally. Don’t let it.

Inviting people regularly over worked pretty well for me, like hosting a weekly game night. I don’t have the energy to do so while working unfortunately, so my place is also a complete mess right now. Calling someone to have a body double while cleaning or doing other tasks also helps. Hope you figure something out!

Yes, more when going to bed than waking up though.

Let me introduce you to “I’m The Villain In My Own Story”: https://youtu.be/UhzN7SfnNeY

From the excellent (though sometimes emotionally heavy) show Crazy Ex-Girlfriend. It’s certainly not the best song in the show, but the most relevant.

And in the artery to that vein, let me present “I’m A Good Person”: https://youtu.be/O4hh1YhDfbA

(Edited to clarify these are not the best songs in the show, there are better songs and in a wide variety of genres!)

What do they answer?

The trick is to regularly lose the list amongst the chaos, and start from scratch with an empty list.

To be the artery to your vein:

It’s better the ask and sound ignorant, than say nothing and remain so.

It’s only as awkward as you and the other person makes it, and you sound like you made it pretty awkward for yourself before even giving the other person a chance to be non-awkward about it.

The way I see it: If it’s something the person can fix immediately, like a downed zipper or food in their teeth or visible booger, tell them (discreetly) immediately. If it’s not fixable at the time, don’t draw attention to it.

And I dont know how “oh, you seem to have a zipper malfunction” could ever be seen as trying to hit on someone, so you’d likely have been fine if you hadn’t blown it out of proportion.

Additionally: if you start waffling about and overexplaing, youll make it awkward for yhe other person, if you just mention it casually like you’d mention the weather they won’t feel like its a big deal for you to have seen it. I would appreciate it at least, rather than notice by myself and wonder how many people have seen my underwear or visible booger during the day.

Carrots will not grant you the ability to see in the dark, but have many other benefits. Remember to stock up on carrots when able.

I feel ya. I always have to go through and clean up my notes immediately when I can still recall what they may have meant, or the meaning will be lost to time.

I second the recording, it seems like the surest way to save your thoughts word for word but i personallydont like speakingout loud while thinking.

You can type your notes on your phone if you’re as quick or quicker there than by hand. Autocorrect will mess up some words but those will probably be understandable through context rather than the whole sentence being unreadable.

Or try mind-mapping where you only have to write a few words and draw connections between them. This can take some time to practice, and you can figure out your own sort of shorthands for figures and imagery.

I also like bullet points, where I make sure to make key words readable and can add details that may or may not be legible, but the key words are likely to trigger the same thoughts later as when writing them down.

And always go through and clean up whatever notes or voice memos you take as soon as possible after when it’s still relevant in your mind.

Try reframing what constitutes toxicity in DBD. I know it really helped me when i started voice acting as the killer with a goofy voice. I don’t know what you consider toxic, but some suggestions: killer voice being all lovey-dovey when hitting on hook and face camping, celebratory like a kid someone let win in cards when ground humping, “excuse me maam, you dropped your wallet, hello hello, excuse me!” increasingly desperately when tunneling, etc.

And close end game chat before reading it.

Check your local library (if you’re lucky enough to have one). Mine didn’t have any rpg adventure books in stock but they let me search their online database and I found some that looked interesting. They shipped them in for me to borrow, at no cost to me. Amazing service!

It’s a great way to try different adventure books before buying the ones that suit your style. Some adventures are quite fleshed out and some are bare bones with plot holes you can fill however you want.

Another thing that can help is to bounce ideas with other DMs or players that aren’t in the campaign: give one a call if you know them irl, or make a post online, if you get stuck and need inspiration. Two heads together are greater than five heads alone, believe me.

Finally, take notes. Inspiration can come from the oddes sources, so write down anything and everything that might be usable at some point in the future: talk during the campaign, overhearing gossip about a stranger, books, movies, poems, games, dreams, working on a problem at work/school. Reading the notes back later can either be gibberish or lead to an idea to use.

A woman doesn’t have to be feminine, there are plenty of masc and butch women. Would you feel more comfortable with short hair? There are also other options. Would you feel more comfortable thinking of yourself as a man (men can also be feminine or masculine), or neither, or both?

I didn’t feel comfortable calling myself a woman, but not crossing any gender boundary, I just always preferred “girl”. I didn’t feel mature enough to be a woman until I kinda forced myself to claim that title. With enough use I now feel comfortable referring to myself as a woman.

Titles and gender can be hard. You are allowed to experiment until you find the expression and terminology that suits you. But also, its okay to feel ridiculous, you can grow into feeling comfortable with whichever terminology you want.