Queer spaces/meetups mostly! Or meeting partners’ partners. Grindr gets a bad rap for not entirely undeserved reasons, but I did meet some wonderful people there too.

early on I mostly just got on with my partner’s partners, didn’t form relationships with all of them but if I like someone, chances are I’ll like their partners too!

I promise plenty avoid the drama. also my god, have you ever talked to a monogamous couple?

The best bathroom I’ve seen is at a nearby brewery. One bathroom for everyone. Toilets on the right, urinals on the left, signs designating which side is which. Each has a stall, with floor-to-ceiling doors and a sturdy lock. It looks more like a locker room from outside the stalls. There’s big circular sink on the way out, with a mirror and shelf on a nearby wall. It’s extremely private in the place you actually do your business, but the remaining area is very visible from the outside and there’s plenty of people around given everyone’s sharing the same space. I cannot imagine a safer way to lay out a bathroom. It’s amazing what happens when you give people privacy.

“oh but what if people shoot up in there” - Sharps disposal box. If someone is shooting up in there, they probably shouldn’t be, but if they are, there’s a safe way to dispose of it. I promise nobody looks at a sharps disposal and decides to start using now that there’s a place to dispose of the needle. Really nice for people who take prescribed medications by injection, too.

“oh but it’s too expensive” - I’ve been lucky to travel enough to see less developed places I didn’t know the customs or language of with bath"rooms" more akin to bath"sides-of-buildings" that I STILL felt safer in than American bathrooms because they have a REAL FUCKING STALL. They’re gender-neutral mostly because (shocker) two bathrooms tend to be more expensive to build and maintain than one.

If legislators really cared about this issue, they’d put resources toward remodeling public bathrooms to at least have decent stalls and better visibility. They aren’t doing that, so that’s not what this is about. It’s just an easy way to pick on a minority by way of creating a boogey-trans-man - Republican business as usual.

He’ll still be arrested or at the least harassed, and that’s the point. The goal is to prevent trans people from using any public bathrooms.

oh frig you said the funk word oooooooo

Came here to post this, love this video!

Prick a liberal and a fascist bleeds. Prick a fascist and a liberal denounces violence.