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Cake day: June 20th, 2023

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  • First of all, I love the Mama Bear energy of you writing this incredible two-max-comment size Guide On Dysphoria 101 in response to a panicky post.

    Thank you, it really makes me feel cared about.

    I have been with a therapist for a long amount of time, and she’s great, and I’ll probably be telling her about my latest egg-cracking, so that will help, as well as the support from the few really good people around me I can trust with this. Also the SSRIs I’ve been on for a year are probably playing their part.

    So, this is more of a poking-your-brain moment if you’d like to answer, but…

    My dysphoria isn’t really… Motivating me. It’s a cold slush. I see you wrote about how you socially transitioned as soon as you found out, “out of fear of going back in the closet for a decade”. For myself, right now, I think I see enormous value in starting HRT, because that might be one of the few ideas/things that make me feel motivated, while everything else is scary and makes me go limp. It’s probably the anxiety. But I think I have a particularly hard time surviving euphoria, not dysphoria lol.

    So I wanted to ask, how have you experienced the joy? What has felt good enough to you, to brave it all?





  • Don’t give up! It’s objectively harder to reach the “feeling good” stage in comparison to the man-handle, because if you’re tense, the muscle in there hurts because it tenses and is really strong. It tensing around something non-soft, makes it hurt, it hurting makes you panic, and you panicking makes you tense more.

    And when you’re panicking and hurting, you can’t really get horny. Instead you have to work it and explore it slowly, so you’re relaxed throughout, in order to reach the feel-good stage first, and then it’s mostly downhill from there haha