I’m a day late, but for me it’s just… Getting treated like one of the girls.
My wife and some of our friends have a ladies movie night every week and it’s been so nice getting invited to those week after week and just getting to be part of the girl talk.
Despite a year and change on HRT, I don’t really feel like I pass yet even in the best of circumstances. Or even come close, honestly. I look in the mirror and only see my dad so much it makes me feel like it’ll never happen. I’m slowly seeing my mom and cousins in the mirror instead sometimes, but it’s slow-going.
But our friends? They make me feel like I’ve belonged in the girls’ circle the whole time, and that has been remarkable.
Also my wife’s side of our extended family has a yearly gathering and when I came out they all were immediately supportive - Instantly reminded me to bring a ladies gift for the annual gift exchange and asked if I have a new name and pronouns and such. And that was the grandparents! Small stuff like that: proactively inviting me to girl things, and treating me like I belonged there to start with.
I’m a day late, but for me it’s just… Getting treated like one of the girls.
My wife and some of our friends have a ladies movie night every week and it’s been so nice getting invited to those week after week and just getting to be part of the girl talk.
Despite a year and change on HRT, I don’t really feel like I pass yet even in the best of circumstances. Or even come close, honestly. I look in the mirror and only see my dad so much it makes me feel like it’ll never happen. I’m slowly seeing my mom and cousins in the mirror instead sometimes, but it’s slow-going.
But our friends? They make me feel like I’ve belonged in the girls’ circle the whole time, and that has been remarkable.
Also my wife’s side of our extended family has a yearly gathering and when I came out they all were immediately supportive - Instantly reminded me to bring a ladies gift for the annual gift exchange and asked if I have a new name and pronouns and such. And that was the grandparents! Small stuff like that: proactively inviting me to girl things, and treating me like I belonged there to start with.