Yeah, this requires context. For what reason do you feel unsafe, to the point that you have to lie in front of “friends”? This just reeks of social instability.
No. I think that a lot of things go through even the most rational teenager’s mind when trying to decide whether or not to bail on a bad situation, and removing “will they think I’m lame?” from that equation by pushing the social baggage for the decision onto someone who doesn’t have any friendships to risk is a no-brainer. Keeps the kid safe, lets them learn with minimal consequence, and now they get to have a conversation about it the next morning over pancakes instead of through prison bars.
A misdirection or lie is a very small price to pay. And honestly, it’s not even lying. If my kid feels unsafe, I do insist they come home, and I don’t have any problem finding and exaggerating a reason for them to do so while still saving face.
They’re learning how to be smart adults, but they can’t be smart adults if they die while they’re dumb teenagers just because the “but what if…” in their mind keeps them from making the call.
I don’t see any need for additional context, the kid was uncomfortable and his dad was there to get him out, no questions asked, as it should be. They might want to talk about it afterwards, with an eye to understanding the situation better, and working out how to avoid getting into that sort of situation in future, but that’s between the kid and his dad.
I could imagine a girl felling the vibes of a party shift. She could say she wants to bounce but then there will be questions and that may not be the vibes the rest of the party wants to hear. Some guy has cornered her all night. Or some bullies are there and she doesn’t want to be with them but dosen’t whant t to start something.
Yeah, this requires context. For what reason do you feel unsafe, to the point that you have to lie in front of “friends”? This just reeks of social instability.
Social instability?! In a teenager?!?!? No way.
Teenagers? Reeking?
(We agree I’m just being funny because I’m immature)
Yes? You think It’s healthy to systemize lying instead of learning how to act social?
I think it warrants context for it to be understandable behavior.
No. I think that a lot of things go through even the most rational teenager’s mind when trying to decide whether or not to bail on a bad situation, and removing “will they think I’m lame?” from that equation by pushing the social baggage for the decision onto someone who doesn’t have any friendships to risk is a no-brainer. Keeps the kid safe, lets them learn with minimal consequence, and now they get to have a conversation about it the next morning over pancakes instead of through prison bars.
A misdirection or lie is a very small price to pay. And honestly, it’s not even lying. If my kid feels unsafe, I do insist they come home, and I don’t have any problem finding and exaggerating a reason for them to do so while still saving face.
They’re learning how to be smart adults, but they can’t be smart adults if they die while they’re dumb teenagers just because the “but what if…” in their mind keeps them from making the call.
Teenagers tend to get into all kinds of situations. It’s best to let them and be there for them when they need you.
I don’t see any need for additional context, the kid was uncomfortable and his dad was there to get him out, no questions asked, as it should be. They might want to talk about it afterwards, with an eye to understanding the situation better, and working out how to avoid getting into that sort of situation in future, but that’s between the kid and his dad.
I could imagine a girl felling the vibes of a party shift. She could say she wants to bounce but then there will be questions and that may not be the vibes the rest of the party wants to hear. Some guy has cornered her all night. Or some bullies are there and she doesn’t want to be with them but dosen’t whant t to start something.
Yeah, this is about a “son”.
Damn, I thought toxic masculinity and mysoginy stayed in X, not dragged along to Lemmy
Yeah, boys don’t find themselves in uncomfortable or potentially dangerous situations.