Hi folks. Not a woman but I’m asking on behalf of my 19 year old daughter so I hope that’s ok.
She has a huge dermoid cyst on one of her ovaries. It’s slightly larger than a baby’s head.
We’re just out of a consult with the surgeon a few hours. Surgeon felt the ovary was salvageable and she basically has three options.
- Ovary removal, this can possibly / probably be done through keyhole. Results in about 25% reduction in fertility. She does want kids in the future but had mentally already said goodbye to the ovary until today.
- Horizontal incision. This will leave a scar about 13cm / 5 inches around her knicker line but if there are any complications during the surgery, the scar would extend to cover the width of her tummy. At the moment this is her preferred option because of lower visibility but we’re both kinda shaken after the whole thing.
- Vertical scar from her belly button. This makes the surgery easier and is the least likely to cause any complications.
He’s urging option 3.
The thing is she’s an athletic kid and very young obviously so the scarring is a big consideration for her. She would wear belly tops a lot and has since she was young. She doesn’t want a tattoo to cover.
We tried looking for examples of post-op scars online but they’re all fresh after surgery so obviously look very rough (and I presume some of them are “omg I got butchered” pics) so she was very upset after seeing those.
What I’m wondering is if any of you have experience or know anyone with experience with this and wouldn’t mind sharing what choice you made and if you’re happy with it and how well the scar healed over time?
Also if anyone would be willing to share a healed scar picture I could put you directly in touch with her (or you can of course DM me).
Thanks so much ❤️
About scars: I had surgery around that age that resulted in several 1in scars across my belly. It was an adjustment mentally to accept them. Over a decade later and I’m used to them and don’t care about them. Though I make sure to always use high spf sunscreen if wearing swim suit or crop top so they stay minimally noticeable. Nobody has ever commented on them to me, aside from a couple intimate partners who asked where they came from. When I’ve mentioned my belly scars or some minor facial scars to friends, most of them said they hadn’t noticed the scars. Also, get some silicone gel for after the stitches are gone. They greatly help scarring. And doing massage on the scars.
About surgery options: A little hard to say without knowing all the details. Did you ask the surgeon things like how often they do this kind of surgery, which method they use the most, how often are there complications for each method, what are the complications that could happen, are there any more experienced surgeons for this surgery you can go to? It will come down to personal risk preference.