• Domi@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    2 days ago

    Thank you lovely, you were one of the first to welcome me here so I’m always happy to see one of your comments.

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      1 day ago

      Also, I will say that I suspect that part of what reduced my harassment was developing a confident look of “I belong here, don’t fuck with me”. I only say this because you mentioned looking at the floor and because it’s advice some badass women gave me years ago that I think really helped.

      There’s many styles to that look and you need to find ones that are authentic to you. But harassers are bullies, and some of them won’t bother when they see a target who looks like she isn’t easy pickings to give them the feelings of power they want. I hate feeling like I should say this because it’s really not your fault, but it helped me a lot and I don’t want to leave people without such knowledge.