Being independent can be incredibly fulfilling.

It can also be fucking exhausting sometimes.

My car battery died, so I ordered a new one. I carefully checked the amperage, dimensions, and compatibility with my car model. It arrived, I removed the old battery (which was no small feat, and I was ridiculously proud of myself when I finally managed it) and then discovered that the terminals on the new battery were reversed and it wouldn’t work.

So now I have to return it. Which means carrying a 15 kg battery to the post office.

Then I have to wait for the correct one to arrive.

And after that, I get to figure out why two of my tyres are flat (no problem, I have a spare tyre and ordered a charger/air blower thingy, hopefully it will work).

I am perfectly capable of taking care of my own shit.

I’m just getting a little tired of it. But lesson learned: buy the exact same model of whatever you need to replace if you can.

/rant

    • TheJesusaurus@piefed.caBanned from community
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      I didn’t check the rules, and I don’t make a habit of it. If you come up on my feed that’s on you. If I went seeking this place out, I’d feel more obliged to be familiar. I’ll be sure to never ever engage with this place again though, don’t worry.

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        I didn’t check the rules

        I don’t make a habit of it

        If you come up on my feed that’s on you

        I feel like I’m deliberately stepping on a landmine here as I’m not a woman

        Three of these things belong together. Three of these things are kind of the same. But one of these things just doesn’t belong here: now it’s time to play the game.

        Which of these statements doesn’t belong? Go for it, Sparky! I’m sure you’ll be able to figure out it! There’s enough clues!

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          No, they all fit. Just because I had no idea what the rules were doesn’t mean I’m a stark raving moron

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            No, you continuously breaking the rules after you were reminded of them is what makes you a, to quote you, “stark raving moron”.

            Take responsibility for your actions, apologize for breaking the rules, and then leave. That’s all that was expected of you and now you have the ire of a bunch of lemmings here.

            It’s not hard to follow the rules and YOU agreed to follow community specific rules when you made an account.

            • TheJesusaurus@piefed.caBanned from community
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              I do know the rules now that true. I’m quite obviously flouting them by these replies. But then, if you didn’t want a response you wouldn’t be directly engaging in a conversation with me.

              Someone would’ve banned me by now if it was that big of a concern but from what I can tell this has been a mostly pretty laid back community with 2 or 3 people that have wasted more of my own time and their own by a factor of at least 10 than anything my original post did.

              I promise I won’t reply if you dont

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                Does it give you a thrill to force yourself on women saying “no”?

                It certainly seems so. It must do something for you to want to flout rules in a women’s only community. Makes you smile to make women feel uncomfortable, doesn’t it?

                I see you.

                • TheJesusaurus@piefed.caBanned from community
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                  No, it’s got nothing to do with that. I find self righteous try hard digdongs annoying regardless of gender. You’re making this a women thing. It’s basically a you and one other person thing. People who came way late to this party and have not contributed to the original discussion at all and re-engaged me in a discussion that was already over, to make sure that I know my place.

                  I do. I’m not coming back here. I won’t ever again offer mildly sarcastic advice where it’s not wanted. You achieved everything you wanted before you ever got involved. But then you wanted to get involved anyway.

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                    It’s amazing the tantrums some men will throw when treated as if the entire world isn’t theirs for the taking.

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        If you don’t curate your feed that’s on you.

        I feel like I’m deliberately stepping on a landmine here as I’m not a woman

        You knew what you were doing.

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              The little red dopamine bell comes up every time you message me. You can stop this any time you like.

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                I get a hit every time someone insults you and tell you to get the hell out.

                • TheJesusaurus@piefed.caBanned from community
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                  I’ve not engaged with the community AT ALL since finding out the rules other than replying to people who directly addressed me

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            And yet you’re still here. Still commenting. Still posting against the rules you now definitely know about.

            Fucking Hell, what does it take to get through to you complete and utter bags of dicks!?

            • TheJesusaurus@piefed.caBanned from community
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              People keep replying to me. Just being polite. I do know the rules now and I won’t be commenting in here any more, other than to reply dire tly to people who are engaging with me.

              Literally I was already here and gone with no trouble at all, people I my started messaging me hours later. If you don’t wanna talk to me, please by all means don’t.

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                Just being polite.

                You know you’re being rude as hell now.

                I’m not going to shut up because a man told me to do so.

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                  I didn’t tell you to. I said by all means keep replying if you want to, or stop if you want to do that. I get a little red bell icon every time you message me. It’s hard to ignore.

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          I had. And THEN a bunch of people that aren’t OP decided to say a bunch of shit

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            And your fragile snowflake ego couldn’t take that so you just had to put the women in their place. By going into their place.

            A real piece of work you are.

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              I didn’t go into anyone’s place, the place came to me and nobody minded at first. I’m already not coming back. I don’t get what you think you are accomplishing

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                You came back right here.

                We are protecting our space from rude men who insist they know better than we do.

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                Why are you ruled by your ego? Why do you have to get the last word in a place that is for women only? Does it bother you that much to have a place where you are unwanted as a man?

                To be clear, I don’t want you to answer those questions here.