OldQWERTYbastard@lemmy.world to Mental Health@lemmy.worldEnglish · 6 days ago

Children who grew up teaching themselves because nobody had time to teach them often become adults who are extraordinarily competent and quietly resentful

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Children who grew up teaching themselves because nobody had time to teach them often become adults who are extraordinarily competent and quietly resentful

OldQWERTYbastard@lemmy.world to Mental Health@lemmy.worldEnglish · 6 days ago

Children who grew up teaching themselves because nobody had time to teach them often become adults who are extraordinarily competent and quietly resentful that their independence was born from neglect rather than choice

The skills that make you the person everyone relies on might be the same ones that quietly remind you nobody showed up when you needed them to.

Does anyone else see themselves in this article?

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Right?

My dad when my mom did absolutely anything: “Noooo you can’t do that why would you bla bla bla”

My dad when my mom wants to know how to do something: “…” crickets chirping

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