• slowmorella@discuss.tchncs.de
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    13 hours ago

    When i used to date i always postponed the first date on a somewhat short notice with an excuse and observed the reaction. Most guys where cool and understanding but some where actually pissed. So i was always happy i did that test.

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      13 hours ago

      I learned that when I was accidentally fifteen minutes late and the guy straight up left and complained. Thing was I told him I was having issues with my bike and had called a cab, so I might be late. Dodged a bullet, there.

      Since then I’m always late to a first date (with explanation) just to see if they’re the kind of guy who loses their shit.

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        yes it’s saver to do such a test. I think i came up with it in a similar way like you. like i had to shift a date because i wasn’t feeling well and the guy wasn’t too happy about it. So it became a standard safety check.