Buncha women talking about an annoying trend that disproportionately affects women. You hop in with “This doesn’t just happen to women.” Yeah, that is invalidating.
It may not be limited to women, but it’s overwhelmingly women who hear it.
I’m 42 and I’ve been hearing “you would look so much prettier if you smiled more” since I was a veryyoung teen, often by men old enough to be my grandfather. I used to comply, now I give them the middle finger because I don’t owe anyone a smile.
I have never been told to smile in public, and I was unable to smile during the three or so decades I lived as a man. Its not a thing they tell to men. We are expected to smile and be pretty; they aren’t.
This is not limited to women. I think that they see someone not being a grinning idiot and are confused.
It’s statistically far, far more likely to be directed at women.
Do you have any idea where you’re commenting?
I’ve had guys stop me on the street and demand I smile. I felt like an animal at the zoo.
As an introvert, I have been told the same thing. Not meant to invalidate women’s experiences with this phenomenon.
Buncha women talking about an annoying trend that disproportionately affects women. You hop in with “This doesn’t just happen to women.” Yeah, that is invalidating.
Are you posting in the right community?
Are you invalidating my experience? I’m a person too.
You’re more than welcome to make your own post to talk about this. In a completely different community.
Yes. Go share your experience somewhere else.
Telling women to smile is well-documented as a type of sexist microaggression.
It may not be limited to women, but it’s overwhelmingly women who hear it.
I’m 42 and I’ve been hearing “you would look so much prettier if you smiled more” since I was a very young teen, often by men old enough to be my grandfather. I used to comply, now I give them the middle finger because I don’t owe anyone a smile.
I have never been told to smile in public, and I was unable to smile during the three or so decades I lived as a man. Its not a thing they tell to men. We are expected to smile and be pretty; they aren’t.