• velma@sh.itjust.works
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      15 days ago

      It’s not funny to joke about sex on a post about rape.

      Holy shit, this post is about to be brigaded by salty men, isn’t it?

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        It’s been a whole day and a half since the last one so I’d say we’re due.

        I wish lemmy had an “only subscribers can comment” button on coms. We’d still get brigaded, but with less rando reply guys and more men who hate us for our bodies and minds.

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          I had hoped this post in particular would be largely ignored since it’s such a sensitive topic.

          I was wrong :(

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            The MRA weenies and their spin-off cohorts will use any excuse to humiliate or attack women. There is nothing so sensitive that a manosphere manchild won’t attack it.

            But it’s misandry to despise them for it.

            • velma@sh.itjust.works
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              14 days ago

              There are several low-effort trolls now and leaving comments like “she’s hot” on a post about rape in this group can be incredibly insensitive.

              These people need a little more public shame in their life for saying such things publicly.

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                The thing is, that people like that don’t really care. They want to trigger and upset people and the more attraction they get, the happier they are. And sometimes they aren’t even people either, but bots that are created to make people upset. It’s a fruitless effort to engage with them. It’s better to just block and ignore.

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                  I’m not doing it for them. I’m doing it to show others that it isn’t tolerated here.

                  It’s easy enough to leave a reply before blocking.

                  Lemmy is full of these sexist, asshole takes. It nearly repelled me completely when I first joined. So now I make it more obvious that women are not just made fun of here.

                  If everyone ignores it, then the message that is sent is that it’s normalized and accepted.

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                    I mean, if we block and ignore people like that quietly, it also sends a signal to them that it isn’t tolerated. But to give every silly comment with fanfare, only open the group up to more negative attention.

                    Now it’s fun to annoy the group and it will attract more of those types of commenters.

                    It can never be 100% avoided that assholes come in and leave bad comments, but I think it’s a shame that this group more often than not becomes about anger at trolls than it is about the female experience. Which, in my personal experience, is far more nuanced and interesting than just getting upset at disrespectful men all the time.

                    I understand where you’re coming from, I just dont think it’s a fruitful way of handling comments like that.

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      Are you in compliance with the rules of this group?

      Asking for now. Not accusing.

      For now.