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AITA for borrowing GFs laptop?

Originally posted to r/AmItheAsshole

TRIGGER WARNING: Theft

Original Post  May 23, 2020

Since world events – staying at GFs.

She works from home – I dont have to work but have full salary. I kill time by watching shows, playing online games and hanging with GF when she’s not working.

Yesterday – my laptop broke – I don’t know what’s wrong with it and I will have to bring it in.

My GF has 2 laptops; one for work and one for “fun”. Her work is encrypted or something so she doesn’t like using it for general browsing. I asked to borrow her extra laptop yesterday for my game. She said after her movie ended because she was streaming from fun laptop to tv and working at the same time. It would be about 1.5hrs.

When she went to the washroom, I took her fun laptop and switched to a similar movie on netflix. I dont understand why she had to watch this movie right now. She has netflix, amazon, crave and Disney plus, so many options to choose from. Like shes a bit priviliged with a smart tv in her room, her guest room and her living room. An Xbox, PS4, Switch and N64. Sometimes I think she likes having the “best” of everything.

Anyhow she got really upset with me and said I violated her boundaries – big fight last night. She made me sleep in the guest room. My guy friends think shes over-reacting. Like it’s just a movie.

This morning she said she slept on it and feels like we need a break and asked me to leave. I left this afternoon to my parents but borrowed the extra laptop until I get mine fixed.

She called freaking out, called me a thief, said she will call the cops. Accused me of being AH but my mom thinks she needs to chill. Maybe do a spa day or something. Like she has 2 laptops and all these gaming devices, I think she will be fine.

So AITA for borrowing my GFs laptop?

VERDICT: ASSHOLE

RELEVANT COMMENTS

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This can’t be real.

OBVIOUSLY YTA. You took her property without her permission and then when she broke up with you you took it with you after leaving her house?! What the hell, dude.

This can’t be real. Nobody is this dense.

OOP

I dont believe this is a break-up. She said we are taking a break. I’m assuming that’s me staying with her type break we have never lived together prior to this and thought we’d give it a test run. I have been at her place about 7 weeks now and this is the first “real” fight we had. I’ll admit, I was bit of a dick for taking the laptop. I havnt used it yet; and I messaged her saying I will return it. No cops have come to my place yet and I have been home for several hours so I think it was an anger threat. I just feel she greatly overreacted for one thing.

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k8thegr8er

Yes, YTA.  It’s her laptop, not yours.  Give it back and be a responsible adult (get yours fixed or get a new one).

She’s not “spoiled” by having all these things.  She works hard, earns money, and buys them.  Like a responsible adult.

OOP

I am not saying she is spoiled – just that she has a lot of options and maybe she overreacted a little bit when I took her laptop initially and now it has escalated.

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tompha

Will your mother tell the cops they need to “chill” too when they appear at your house bc her son is stupid and think it’s alright to take someone property without asking to borrow(steal?)… You can’t be this much air head. And I hope you will give it back bc this is illegal. YTA

OOP

My mom meant chill like for her to calm down so we can talk about it reasonably. I will return her laptop especially since it seemed to escalate her. When we spoke on phone earlier – she wa freaking out and threatening to call the cops. I couldnt really squeeze in there “sorry, I will return the laptop!” So my mom said to wait for her to chill out maybe some self spa day thing because she does that to calm down from a rough day.

If she has a smart tv why did she need to stream from the laptop?

Legit that was half our argument – why couldnt she use the smart tv to stream? Why did she have to connect the laptop. She said she has a site she streams from that is not an app and doesn’t lag. An android box would be better than connecting the laptop.

OOP Updated May 24, 2020 (Next Day/Same Post)

Update:

So after a long conversation – my GF has told me that there were a few things in the last 7 weeks that has upset her and that she felt she gave me many hints. She didnt tell me outright though. I told her I was sorry and it was a really dick move for me to take her laptop. My brother dropped it off earlier. I am 23(m) and she is 26(f) - don’t know why people want to know that!? She accused me of using her for free housing, food, and stuff. I talked with my brother and he said it’s common sense to chip to these things - because shes my GF and not my mom. I guess I’m an idiot but at the same time - I wished she just straight up ask me for money to contribute vs. “We are running out of TP” or “we just used a quarter of gas on this trip”.

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