• velma@sh.itjust.works
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        15 days ago

        I get scolded a lot for being too outspoken. Apparently I’m holding women back lol

        Anyway, it can be fun to see the tantrums in my DMs so oh well.

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                I’m more amused about it than anything. I will fully admit I used Reddit and similar sites for conversing and such before and my comments on Lemmy are very similar. But the amount of screeching manosphere types are SO LOUD on Lemmy! It’s astonishing the kinds of things people say to me here.

                I call out bullshit when I see it, but I’m rather kind and positive in general. So when I’ve got a message telling me that my attitude is why women should be subjugated or raped, I feel a little pride in upsetting a truly horrible person just by being myself.

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                  Well done for putting up with it … it’s amazing how online discourse just keeps on getting worse. But then I remember just a tiny number if the IRL atrocities that have happened and are happening now, and I wonder how I could be surprised at all.

                  They’re determined to drive women to either misandry or subjugation, and I don’t understand why.

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                    14 days ago

                    Territorial, maybe? Women are ‘invading their spaces’ (i.e. the job market, sports teams…) so they have to chase us away to defend their territory?

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            15 days ago

            Someone linked the book “Feminist Killjoy” in this comm recently. I highly recommend ;)

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            Have you expressed that you are of the female persuasion? They need to know you are before they feel the need to correct you. Otherwise youre just a guy to them and will be ignored beyond a stupid comment.

            Not all men but most men, and I say this as a NB AMAB.

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              That’s the real clincher there. When someone even sees my clearly female name, I get mass downvotes on all my comments and posts.

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                Yep! I’ve noticed women are more likely to get that. It’s really obvious. I’ve had incels follow me round lemmy making passive aggressive remarks… I honestly feel sorry for them, all that hate and anger can’t feel good for them. But they don’t do the work on themselves that they need to do, so they’re trapped with that anger eating them alive.

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                  14 days ago

                  I honestly feel sorry for them, all that hate and anger can’t feel good for them. But they don’t do the work on themselves that they need to do, so they’re trapped with that anger eating them alive.

                  Same, same.

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          Not too boast but I regularly get called things like a “well known misandrist”. I genuinely don’t think they understand how proud I feel when incels call me that.