You know you can just tell them they are doing a great job and to have a great day without the creepy, flirting bit, right? You can be nice to people and express gratitude and make people smile without bribing them with cheap candy as though you’re trying to slip into their DMs.
Especially when I’m having a rough day, I do not want some random showering me with pity treats when I’m just trying to make it to the end of my shift.
Not every kind gesture is flirting, my fellow cephalopod. Sometimes people do nice things to be nice. Telling someone that you hope their day goes well/improves is kind but it can feel insincere when it’s stranger to stranger. Something small like a favorite candy bar is a more intentional way to do something nice
Yeah but as someone who worked retail with women in the past, they constantly have to deal with creepy men hitting on them. So I don’t really blame them if they take it that way.
Yes, I do genuinely agree with you that, especially in the context of this post, most nice gestures like this aren’t flirtatious at all. I’m simply trying to point out that there are people who work front line jobs and who have bad days that aren’t perfectly attuned to social cues and gestures out in public and interpret social situations in diverse ways.
I just think that the risk of coming off as insincere if you say something nice is way lower than the risk of coming off as a creep and making someones bad day feel worse.
You know you can just tell them they are doing a great job and to have a great day without the creepy, flirting bit, right? You can be nice to people and express gratitude and make people smile without bribing them with cheap candy as though you’re trying to slip into their DMs.
Especially when I’m having a rough day, I do not want some random showering me with pity treats when I’m just trying to make it to the end of my shift.
Not every kind gesture is flirting, my fellow cephalopod. Sometimes people do nice things to be nice. Telling someone that you hope their day goes well/improves is kind but it can feel insincere when it’s stranger to stranger. Something small like a favorite candy bar is a more intentional way to do something nice
Yeah but as someone who worked retail with women in the past, they constantly have to deal with creepy men hitting on them. So I don’t really blame them if they take it that way.
🕵️📕🦋 is this [genuine kindness] flirting?
Yes, I do genuinely agree with you that, especially in the context of this post, most nice gestures like this aren’t flirtatious at all. I’m simply trying to point out that there are people who work front line jobs and who have bad days that aren’t perfectly attuned to social cues and gestures out in public and interpret social situations in diverse ways.
I just think that the risk of coming off as insincere if you say something nice is way lower than the risk of coming off as a creep and making someones bad day feel worse.
Please stay nice