There’s a world of difference between hearing a term you’re not familiar with and saying something like, “I’ve never heard that before, would you mind telling me what it means?” and learning about someone’s marginalization and asking them a bunch of questions about it. I’m guessing this rule is targeting the latter.
Personally, if I meet someone who is marginalized, I avoid talking about their marginalization unless they bring it up and are clearly interested in talking about it. If they don’t want to be defined by it or be asked a bunch of questions about it, then that’s their right.
How on earth did you stumble across a comment that is 5 days old?
No objection with your framing. In fact, I tend to agree. My disagreement was the narrow / binary lens applied by the previous commentor. Their perspective (‘your responsibility to learn’) is/was an extremely dismissive approach.
There’s a world of difference between hearing a term you’re not familiar with and saying something like, “I’ve never heard that before, would you mind telling me what it means?” and learning about someone’s marginalization and asking them a bunch of questions about it. I’m guessing this rule is targeting the latter.
Personally, if I meet someone who is marginalized, I avoid talking about their marginalization unless they bring it up and are clearly interested in talking about it. If they don’t want to be defined by it or be asked a bunch of questions about it, then that’s their right.
How on earth did you stumble across a comment that is 5 days old?
No objection with your framing. In fact, I tend to agree. My disagreement was the narrow / binary lens applied by the previous commentor. Their perspective (‘your responsibility to learn’) is/was an extremely dismissive approach.