I went through breakup from a 4 year relationship few weeks back. Previously I was not able to process my breakup and wanted her back but lately I realised we are not compatible in the long term and would eventually get hurt making sacrifices just to be with each other. I am 28M by the way and I was not active on dating apps ever in my life as I always found the idea of pretending to be someone else on these apps just to please women is not what I can do. Now I feel that I need to start using dating apps to find my soulmate. I am feeling very hopeless on these apps as few of the matches that I got, I was the one continuing the conversation and it was purely one sided 90 percent of the time. I have always felt that organic relationships are the best when you become friends and eventually start liking each other’s company and the bond becomes stronger and stronger. At this busy age, its very tough to find someone organically and hence I ended up paying for subscription on these dating apps. Is there any success on dating apps at all? It feels like you keep paying and you get nothing. Its just a matter of luck. And even after having meagre matches - you try to throw punchlines just to please the other person and get her to show interest on you. Why is it so difficult to find women these days? Sometimes I get very lonely and I just need a girl to talk to as a distraction. Sometimes intrusive thoughts hit in my mind and I feel what if I could just find someone to fuck - thats how lonely I have become. In my past relationship, my girl couldn’t do PIV sex and hence I always felt dissatisfied with not having to able to enjoy that feeling of my girl from inside. I am not even sure what am I looking for as an answer from you all. Please advise on what should I do and give me hope in this world. submitted by /u/IncidentQuirky3324
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