• Madzielle@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      13 days ago

      they didnt do that.

      they asked if they (men) could dicuss this post here since its not posted anywhere else.

      can we do that? post it elsewhere too, so men can? I love this post too

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      13 days ago

      That’s not my intent. This community specifically has a rule banning men from commenting. (This is not a criticism of this rule either.) I was curious if that’s waived for this post. It’s specifically a post about and for men, but men aren’t supposed to be allowed to comment here.

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          11 days ago

          Sure. But if the point is to try to “fix” masculinity, which is seemingly the point of the post, that needs to involve men. You’re allowed to discuss anything you want.

          I will point out, the comments seem to fit my point where it seems it’s mostly men discussing it. I also assume the rule is waived, for this reason. I have seen no removed comments or warnings about the rule. I’m literally the only person who has brought it up. If there’s no official response, the rule is de facto waived for this post.

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              11 days ago

              If the point of the post is to say “men should act like this, not that” then yes, the point is fixing. Sure, it might not actively be aimed to externally influence, but it is trying to point to a solution to a problem, aka a fix.

              Why are women not allowed to discuss masculinity without men?

              I clearly said they are. The point of the post seems to be aimed more towards a solution to a problem though, as I stated. If you want it to happen, it needs to reach men. I guess you can just not want things to change, but I don’t think most people do, and I’d wager the OP doesn’t want that.

              Anway, again, the moderators of the community seem to agree that men are allowed on this post since I’m the only one who has discussed this rule. Usually they’re pretty quick on asking men not to comment (which is fine and good), but they haven’t here. I noticed this so I asked. I guess I could just not ask and assume it’s allowed.

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                  11 days ago

                  I’m trying to not be hostile. I don’t know what more to say. The moderators are either AWOL or they approve of the discussion (the latter seems much more likely). I was asking if it’s allowed, because it seems to be. If you disagree, take it up with them, not me.