• Drekaridill@lemmy.wtf
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    3 days ago

    I understand why this is supposed to be wholesome, but when I was an autistic child, a stranger sitting next to me while I was eating was easily in my top 5 nightmare scenarios.

    • Pazintach@piefed.social
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      2 days ago

      Even if I’m not autistic, some coworker wanted to join me at the table just because I eat alone was a nightmare scenario for me too. Even worse if they wanted to talk. I just wanted to enjoy my lunch in peace.

    • Croquette@sh.itjust.works
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      3 days ago

      Maybe if the right stranger sits next to you, it would be different, no?

      I am not autistic, but the attitude of a stranger makes a big difference if I get the ick or not. I would guess that it is applicable to everyone, but that the pool of acceptable stranger varies from person to person.

      • FatVegan@leminal.space
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        3 days ago

        That’s very true. There are people, even strangers who feel nice, warm and comfortable to sit next to, while others absolutely don’t, even if they’re nice and all.

    • Tonava@sopuli.xyz
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      3 days ago

      Same. I even preferred eating alone and sitting alone in the hallways, but I always got in trouble for doing that and had to pretend to be “normal” and sit with other people

      • Guy Ingonito@reddthat.com
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        3 days ago

        I used to spend my lunch always moving through the hallways because if I settled into a quiet space almost always people would come to disturb me

        • RebekahWSD@lemmy.world
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          3 days ago

          When my high school allowed me to work in their mail room instead of having to be in the lunch room was the best.