It’s hurtful that they think I’d even be threatening and nasty. That they just immediately assume I’m some kind of monster. It makes me feel like I have no value.
You don’t know that anyone who responds this way actually thinks this. There are a limited amount of ways to communicate that they’re not interested and over-explaining and hedging their niceness would also just backfire. They gave exactly as much explanation as needed. It may come off a bit stiff because the tone is neutral (and they only use “I” sentences - speaking only what they know to be true instead of projecting with “you” sentences).
You may want more validation and that’s fine. But nobody owes it to you. You say “they just immediately assume I’m some kind of monster” - but you could be doing the same thing in assuming their motivations when they only speak neutrally.
Nobody deserves to be judged for the circumstances of their birth. If you make any exceptions, you’re breaking the social contract and nobody is obliged to tolerate you.
nobody said anything about circumstances. this is about men not doing shit about the patriarchy while at the same time painting themselves as the victims of it
It’s hurtful that they think I’d even be threatening and nasty. That they just immediately assume I’m some kind of monster. It makes me feel like I have no value.
You don’t know that anyone who responds this way actually thinks this. There are a limited amount of ways to communicate that they’re not interested and over-explaining and hedging their niceness would also just backfire. They gave exactly as much explanation as needed. It may come off a bit stiff because the tone is neutral (and they only use “I” sentences - speaking only what they know to be true instead of projecting with “you” sentences).
You may want more validation and that’s fine. But nobody owes it to you. You say “they just immediately assume I’m some kind of monster” - but you could be doing the same thing in assuming their motivations when they only speak neutrally.
#notallmen. spare us the crocodile tears
Oops, your prejudice is showing.
Nobody deserves to be judged for the circumstances of their birth. If you make any exceptions, you’re breaking the social contract and nobody is obliged to tolerate you.
nobody said anything about circumstances. this is about men not doing shit about the patriarchy while at the same time painting themselves as the victims of it
Being born a man is a circumstance, and if you judge someone for it it’s prejudice.
This right here, also Goomba Fallacy.
Being born a mansplainer who’s never read a feminist book is also a circumstance, one that you forced yourself into.
if y’all hate being men so much, that’s also not a circumstance. your sex is mutable, and I’m telling you this as a trans woman
You’re projecting hon
Stop being an ass.