For most of my life, I failed to understand hookup culture and ONS. “Damn, I met someone appealing enough that I would like to have sex with them! You know what would make this better? Never seeing them again!” You discovered a Fountain of Sex! Why abandon that now that it’s flowing?!
Some people get their validation from sex. They might not even like the sex. In fact they probably don’t enjoy it but they do like that bit of validation.
They probably aren’t attracted to their ONS. Once they feel validation they want to be far away from the prison they felt it with.
Some people get their validation from sex. They might not even like the sex. In fact they probably don’t enjoy it but they do like that bit of validation.
It took me a few decades to get perspective, but then I encountered people with commitment issues, some of the more chaotic attachment style variants, and various traumas. “Ah, now I understand. You do you and be safe out there, neighbor.”
For most of my life, I failed to understand hookup culture and ONS. “Damn, I met someone appealing enough that I would like to have sex with them! You know what would make this better? Never seeing them again!” You discovered a Fountain of Sex! Why abandon that now that it’s flowing?!
Some people get their validation from sex. They might not even like the sex. In fact they probably don’t enjoy it but they do like that bit of validation.
They probably aren’t attracted to their ONS. Once they feel validation they want to be far away from the prison they felt it with.
It took me a few decades to get perspective, but then I encountered people with commitment issues, some of the more chaotic attachment style variants, and various traumas. “Ah, now I understand. You do you and be safe out there, neighbor.”
Yeah ita like, you got a sex friend, why stop it artificially?